After seeing a CNN piece on the matter, I decided I needed to get some things off my chest about the now viral blog post from a Kansas City mother who let her 5 year old son dress as Daphne from Scooby Doo for Halloween. I have several thoughts on this, spurred on by the post itself, the CNN reporting on its million-hit popularity, as well as the comments and reactions I've seen from both gay and straight people to the child's costume.
1. The article is really about gender, not sexuality. High heels and wigs, though beloved of draq queens who frequently feature at gay nightspots, have as much to do with homosexuality as hammers and nails have to do with heterosexuality. Ie: some gay people partake, just as some straight people use hammers and nails, but frankly they are a non-essential part of the sexual practices and identity of the individual. (Though, there might be some really freaky people out there who are into "hammers and nails play", but I'd rather not dwell on that too long). So, while people often conflate "femininity", or whatever, with homosexuality, the two are not intrinsically linked. Duh.
2. People are more scared of gender rule violations than they are of two dudes getting it on. In fact, I think a lot of people's discomfort with the latter, stems from their viewing it as a gender rule violation. Not entirely, but it definitely is a part of the visceral negative reactions. The gender binary structures a lot of the way we think of ourselves and the social world: violations of it cause deep feelings of discomfort in a lot of people. Even gays. Example: the gay men who think the T doesn't belong with LGB, or who call themselves "straight acting" in their online dating profiles. This is silly, and stupid.
Violations of these gender rules by people with penises are more threatening to people today, for some reason. (Edit: Of course people are more scared of boys "acting like girls" than vice versa; women and feminine things are BAD, or at least inferior to men and masculine things. Silly me for missing that connection from Feminism 101!) Examples: the mother's point that girls dressing as Batman cause no consternation, while a boy dressing as a female character is beyond the pale. CNN covering this child's Halloween costume, and the blog reactions to it, is a fine example of the way people freak the fuck out over gender stuff. Calm down.
3. We can know nothing of this child's gender identification, nor of his sexual leanings, from his 5 year old choice of Halloween costume. Kids dress up on Halloween as things they aren't in normal life. If every boy who clomped around in their mom's high heels at 5 years old turned out to be gay, or transgender, there would be exactly seven straight males in the whole of the country. Also, gay guys who are whooping and calling the kid a "5 year old diva", give it a rest. He's not a diva, nor budding drag queen (not necessarily, anyway). He is FIVE and it was Halloween, stop reading into it: it's called youthful imagination and child's play. The CNN psychologist's chiding the mother for "outing" her five year old is beyond ridiculous, for all of the above reasons.
4. Everyone is a little mix of genders anyway. Nowadays plenty of men do things that were once considered "women's work". Like, cooking for their families, or cleaning, or generally no longer acting like they are helpless infants once inside the familial home. Women wear pants, and go to work, and lead countries. Some do all three! These things were once transgressions of gender norms. Now, they aren't. In the 18th Century, upper class Western European men wore long wigs, high heels, and face powder, and were considered paragons of masculinity. Gender, and the attributes assigned to each one, are contested, continually changing, and highly dependent on social context.
5. People need to chill the fuck out. If the kid grows up to marry a guy, whatever. If he grows up with a lifelong love of heels, whatever. More than likely, he grows up to be a fairly average guy who might cringe, or be somewhat amused, when he considers his mother's splashing his 5 year old Halloween pics on the internet. Let's hope by then, society will be a little more flexible in what it allows its members to do and express, and stops trying to cram everyone into two rigidly defined and enforced categories of existence. One can dream.
Grow up, America, it's only a costume.
Full disclosure: I dressed up as the Wicked Witch of the West for Halloween as a kid. I freaking loved that character. Looking back, I don't think this had anything to do with being gay, nor even identifying with the misunderstood outsider a la Wicked. I think I just found her green skin and abilities to both fly and marshal the aid of monkey minions really kind of awesome.
Friday, November 5, 2010
Tuesday, March 30, 2010
Pesach Time is Here, Happiness and Cheer
Happy Passover, y'all! That's right, it's everyone's third-favorite Jewish holiday (after the chocolate geld and dreidel spinning of Chanukah, and of course the drunken Deuteronomically sanctioned cross-dressing of Purim) once again. This means two things. First, Christian-y people will soon be nomming on ham, feasting non-ironically on mixed meat and dairy, coloring eggs, and exchanging rabbit inspired goodies to celebrate the pagan fertility rites that mark the coming of Spring the resurrection of their favorite lord and savior on Easter, Jesus H Christ! [JC's famed last supper was in fact a Passover seder, for those who've yet to make that connection.] Secondly, it means liberal-type goyim (Christians and other such non-Jews) are clamoring for their fill of seders, matzah, and anything Jewish.
See, within the liberal portions of American society, Judaism is probably the only religion deemed acceptable by the secular set. As much as fallen Catholics might pour scorn on the faith of their births, most would never dream of doing so to Judaism. This is probably because Judaism, as it is practised by the majority of its believers in the States (aka: Conservative and Reform Jews), is a relatively liberal, social justice minded, forward thinking faith in most ways. There just isn't that much there for anti-religious types to get all worked up about, foreskin slicing aside. Jews in American society have often been some of the country's brightest cultural lights in academia, the arts, business, science, and so on. And despite some notable outliers, Alan Greenspan and the anti-religious Ayn Rand being two examples, they have often been the sorts of people liberal minded Goys really really like. Plus, Jews can still be Jews without really practising Judaism, which makes them the post-modern secularist's dream come true.
Americans love an underdog. Scanning the last two-thousand years of Western history, one would be hard pressed to find a group more consistently and repetitively oppressed than the Jews. Across Europe they were subject to repeated expulsions, massacres, forced conversions, and a whole host of really atrocious shenanigans. Consider that Magna Carta, that first bloom of liberalism in England in 1215 CE, was followed only 75 years later by the expulsion of all Jews from English soil for 350 years. What a downer! No need to really explain the next thousand or so years of anti-Jewish treachery. Long story short, the Jews are history's underdog par excellence. This means all Americans who have shed the anti-semitism of their forebears can really appreciate the Jews, and love to try and identify with them. Hey, the SS would've gone after me, too, donchaknow? So, in wedding the underdog motif with the identity-victimization motif, there is just so much for non-Jewish liberals to really latch onto and try to claim as their own, that it proves very difficult for us/them not to try and do so!
Which is silly, for a lot of reasons. Much as we might admire Judaism and our Jewish pals, non-Jews can't really often become Jews. We've all seen that twit Charlotte trying to give up Christmas presents Jesus for her hunk of brisket on Sex and the City, so most good goys now understand it is a club they'd have a hard time joining for the long haul. Which means, as the next best thing, the annual Seder that President Obama has now established as White House tradition will surely be the progressive gentile's dream social invite for many years to come. Hurrah, haroset!
Happy Passover, Jews, and to all you Christians out there: have an appropriately miserable Holy Week!
See, within the liberal portions of American society, Judaism is probably the only religion deemed acceptable by the secular set. As much as fallen Catholics might pour scorn on the faith of their births, most would never dream of doing so to Judaism. This is probably because Judaism, as it is practised by the majority of its believers in the States (aka: Conservative and Reform Jews), is a relatively liberal, social justice minded, forward thinking faith in most ways. There just isn't that much there for anti-religious types to get all worked up about, foreskin slicing aside. Jews in American society have often been some of the country's brightest cultural lights in academia, the arts, business, science, and so on. And despite some notable outliers, Alan Greenspan and the anti-religious Ayn Rand being two examples, they have often been the sorts of people liberal minded Goys really really like. Plus, Jews can still be Jews without really practising Judaism, which makes them the post-modern secularist's dream come true.
Americans love an underdog. Scanning the last two-thousand years of Western history, one would be hard pressed to find a group more consistently and repetitively oppressed than the Jews. Across Europe they were subject to repeated expulsions, massacres, forced conversions, and a whole host of really atrocious shenanigans. Consider that Magna Carta, that first bloom of liberalism in England in 1215 CE, was followed only 75 years later by the expulsion of all Jews from English soil for 350 years. What a downer! No need to really explain the next thousand or so years of anti-Jewish treachery. Long story short, the Jews are history's underdog par excellence. This means all Americans who have shed the anti-semitism of their forebears can really appreciate the Jews, and love to try and identify with them. Hey, the SS would've gone after me, too, donchaknow? So, in wedding the underdog motif with the identity-victimization motif, there is just so much for non-Jewish liberals to really latch onto and try to claim as their own, that it proves very difficult for us/them not to try and do so!
Which is silly, for a lot of reasons. Much as we might admire Judaism and our Jewish pals, non-Jews can't really often become Jews. We've all seen that twit Charlotte trying to give up
Happy Passover, Jews, and to all you Christians out there: have an appropriately miserable Holy Week!
Monday, March 22, 2010
Now bring them the finest muffins and bagels in the land!
I imagine Pelosi, Obama, and company will have mornings somewhat like this on Monday:
And perhaps it's just the rose-tinted glow of victory, but I am feeling very upbeat about the health bill after tonight. It's not anywhere near my ideal vision, as my last post explained, but it is definitely a giant piece of social progress. That article from the New Republic has definitely helped allay my natural first impulses toward left-wing bewilderment.
Kudos to Comrade R for originally posting the TNR article.
And perhaps it's just the rose-tinted glow of victory, but I am feeling very upbeat about the health bill after tonight. It's not anywhere near my ideal vision, as my last post explained, but it is definitely a giant piece of social progress. That article from the New Republic has definitely helped allay my natural first impulses toward left-wing bewilderment.
Kudos to Comrade R for originally posting the TNR article.
Sunday, March 21, 2010
Health Care Reform Once and For All
Oh, so we're hours away from the big vote on the big health care reform bill that the big man B. Obama has been bigging up for the big first year of his presidency.
If it passes, that is pretty big.
I have to comment on it. I really do. My take: better than nothing, though like my big man Paul Krugman at the NY Times, I'd have preferred a Medicare for all universal health insurance program like most countries have. We could've divvied it up by state if necessary to make us all feel happy and federal. That was never really on the table, however. Cowardly Democrats. Or maybe they aren't cowardly, they're just not all that left-wing (philosophically speaking), at all. Perhaps that's an illusion that I have wished to project onto them. Yeah, definitely.
As this British dude says: Americans are not used to the idea that politics can't be bipartisan, if we expect our parties to have actual policy disagreements and differences in ideology. So, grow up and stop getting hysterical about the two parties disagreeing. They agree on far too much already. Also, wanting universal healthcare doesn't make you a socialist, anyway. (And I'm serious, read through the wikipedia article. Then compare that to the Democrats. Please.) David Cameron, leader of the Conservative Party of the UK, isn't a socialist, even though he (claims to) strongly support a completely state-run system of healthcare. I won't go through the "if this were Europe, we'd all seem far-right" argument. That British dude did, so if you clicked the link you'll have just read it. Also, it's had its time, and comparisons with Europe just piss off Americans and make me seem like some naive starry-eyed Europhile. Please, plenty of them bitches hate them some Muslims, so I'm jaded about those Europeans, too. Rascally buggers.
I'm just saying: we agree roads, air traffic control, fire fighting, policing, education, in some places water/gas/electric, are things that government should make sure we all have as a part of our input to the common pot of goods that would be too expensive or complicated to purchase as individuals. Health care is the same deal, the end.
And please, someone, introduce me to one of these Americans who Obama keeps saying are so satisfied with their current plans. I've never met a one.
If it passes, that is pretty big.
I have to comment on it. I really do. My take: better than nothing, though like my big man Paul Krugman at the NY Times, I'd have preferred a Medicare for all universal health insurance program like most countries have. We could've divvied it up by state if necessary to make us all feel happy and federal. That was never really on the table, however. Cowardly Democrats. Or maybe they aren't cowardly, they're just not all that left-wing (philosophically speaking), at all. Perhaps that's an illusion that I have wished to project onto them. Yeah, definitely.
As this British dude says: Americans are not used to the idea that politics can't be bipartisan, if we expect our parties to have actual policy disagreements and differences in ideology. So, grow up and stop getting hysterical about the two parties disagreeing. They agree on far too much already. Also, wanting universal healthcare doesn't make you a socialist, anyway. (And I'm serious, read through the wikipedia article. Then compare that to the Democrats. Please.) David Cameron, leader of the Conservative Party of the UK, isn't a socialist, even though he (claims to) strongly support a completely state-run system of healthcare. I won't go through the "if this were Europe, we'd all seem far-right" argument. That British dude did, so if you clicked the link you'll have just read it. Also, it's had its time, and comparisons with Europe just piss off Americans and make me seem like some naive starry-eyed Europhile. Please, plenty of them bitches hate them some Muslims, so I'm jaded about those Europeans, too. Rascally buggers.
I'm just saying: we agree roads, air traffic control, fire fighting, policing, education, in some places water/gas/electric, are things that government should make sure we all have as a part of our input to the common pot of goods that would be too expensive or complicated to purchase as individuals. Health care is the same deal, the end.
And please, someone, introduce me to one of these Americans who Obama keeps saying are so satisfied with their current plans. I've never met a one.
Monday, March 15, 2010
Alice and, tangentially, American sincerity.
This weekend I took a trip to the movies (or cinema, if you like) and saw the new Alice in Wonderland. It was great, though I think it could have been even weirder and darker, if only Disney had allowed Tim Burton to go all the way with it. There were some pretty excellent bits of humor, both light and dark, and I encourage you all to see it for yourself.
My favorite one liner in the whole film:
Alice is speaking with her potential future mother-in-law, who poses the question, "Do you know what my greatest fear is?"
To which Alice slyly but with a tone of earnestness replies, "The decline of the aristocracy?"
At which point I snorted loudly in glee, but think I was the only one in the theatre who got the joke and/or found it amusing. This is because I'm a dork, and have spent too much time in the UK. Oh yes, I am a show off, too. Disney may have released the film, but Alice (both the books and this rendition) is undeniably British and I'm glad the film and its dialogue weren't completely run through the American sieve. That at least that little bit of totally non-American repartee made it past test-audiences and the editors (films are often edited differently for different countries) warmed the cockles of my heart. Yes, the cockles.
It got me thinking, though, and please do follow this little trip down my stream of conciousness. The longer I am away from the roast beef of jolly old England, the more I notice that my sense of humor just doesn't play as well this side of the Atlantic, and I think I know why. To make a sweeping generalization, Americans are, if anything, a sincere and straight-forward bunch. Sincerity is great and all, but it means one can get away with a lot less in the name of humor, especially in everyday settings. Dark, dry, biting wit just doesn't usually fly. It's unfortunate, for me, because it is the humor I like best and (I like to believe) excel in. That it is so often misinterpreted and/or lost on others hurts. It hurts because it makes me seem like a jerk when I'm just trying to be funny. It hurts most of all, however, because these 'others' are so clearly wrong.
My favorite one liner in the whole film:
Alice is speaking with her potential future mother-in-law, who poses the question, "Do you know what my greatest fear is?"
To which Alice slyly but with a tone of earnestness replies, "The decline of the aristocracy?"
At which point I snorted loudly in glee, but think I was the only one in the theatre who got the joke and/or found it amusing. This is because I'm a dork, and have spent too much time in the UK. Oh yes, I am a show off, too. Disney may have released the film, but Alice (both the books and this rendition) is undeniably British and I'm glad the film and its dialogue weren't completely run through the American sieve. That at least that little bit of totally non-American repartee made it past test-audiences and the editors (films are often edited differently for different countries) warmed the cockles of my heart. Yes, the cockles.
It got me thinking, though, and please do follow this little trip down my stream of conciousness. The longer I am away from the roast beef of jolly old England, the more I notice that my sense of humor just doesn't play as well this side of the Atlantic, and I think I know why. To make a sweeping generalization, Americans are, if anything, a sincere and straight-forward bunch. Sincerity is great and all, but it means one can get away with a lot less in the name of humor, especially in everyday settings. Dark, dry, biting wit just doesn't usually fly. It's unfortunate, for me, because it is the humor I like best and (I like to believe) excel in. That it is so often misinterpreted and/or lost on others hurts. It hurts because it makes me seem like a jerk when I'm just trying to be funny. It hurts most of all, however, because these 'others' are so clearly wrong.
Wednesday, March 10, 2010
It's Only Natural!
'Americans are so weird.'
A blunt and simple judgement pronounced by a dear friend, and Canadian, last week in New York's Central Park. The source of her consternation? No, not the Tea Party 'movement', nor our remarkable religiosity in the face of science, nor even our stubborn (and sometimes paranoid) clinging to the remarkably wasteful $1 bill despite the US Mint's best and most creative efforts to break us of the habit. Well, ok, she did remark on the last one in addition to the ugliness and drab uniformity of US paper money.... that, however, was not the source of her pronouncement of Americans as plainly weird.
No, the source of her befuddlement was the sight of a runner who had just bounded past us on a freezing cold day, his feet shod in little more than a thin black layer of some sort of composite material that seemed a strange cross between foot-condom and mitten-esque hospital-footy. Luckily, I had read about this trend and was able to dispatch with her confusion, if not her incredulity, post haste. Its proponents purport that, by mimicking the running conditions of early humans, we can minimize stress injuries and maxmize performance. Now, I'm no physiologist, so am not really qualified to contemplate the merits of this argument, of which there are many. However, I can also see how wearing shoes (something that humans have done for quite a long time) might have advantages as well, especially given the hyper-ergonomically engineered footware available to the modern runner. Sure, we may have spent a good deal of our early evolution running around barefoot, but it's not impossible that shoe wearing has not subtly influenced our ped-evolution in the meanwhile. Peruse the "paleao diet" for another example of the "if the cavemen did it, it must be good for us, because that's how we evolved" thinking. The cavemen also endured brutish existences and often fell victim to toothaches. I think you see where I'm going with this.
This, to me, represents simply one more manifestation of our society's pre-occupation with trying to discover, and then embrace, all that is 'natural' and (implicitly) better for us. The proponents of organic food, despite considerable evidence to the contrary, insist that organic veg is more healthful. I'll grant it is less environmentally destructive, but de facto more healthy? Probably not. Anyone who has been to a Whole Foods Market can see this trend in all its consumerist glory. Whole aisles devoted to homoeopathic 'remedies', with absolutely zero basis in reality. Hyper-diluted (sometimes tens of thousands of times!) rose-hip water, while perhaps more natural than human engineered chemical compounds, will do nothing for your health beyond the placebo effect. It may be more natural than aspirin, but I'm still going with aspirin for my headache, thanks very much! Chemotherapy might be horrendous to endure, but it saves lives. The bottom line: natural does not necessarily equal better.
Which all makes the obsession with doing, eating, drinking, and being "natural" kind of funny. If you shop at Whole Foods, live in Brooklyn, and run through the completely human created landscape of Central Park.. well, all the homoeopathic remedies and foot-condom running in the world isn't going to give you some mythic natural existence. Appreciation of nature and respect for the natural world is crucial to our survival as a species, but consumerist attempts to live some faddishy faux-naturelle lifestyle do not necessarily represent any step in that direction.
Also, it just makes you seem weird to Canadians, which is quite the feat.
A blunt and simple judgement pronounced by a dear friend, and Canadian, last week in New York's Central Park. The source of her consternation? No, not the Tea Party 'movement', nor our remarkable religiosity in the face of science, nor even our stubborn (and sometimes paranoid) clinging to the remarkably wasteful $1 bill despite the US Mint's best and most creative efforts to break us of the habit. Well, ok, she did remark on the last one in addition to the ugliness and drab uniformity of US paper money.... that, however, was not the source of her pronouncement of Americans as plainly weird.
No, the source of her befuddlement was the sight of a runner who had just bounded past us on a freezing cold day, his feet shod in little more than a thin black layer of some sort of composite material that seemed a strange cross between foot-condom and mitten-esque hospital-footy. Luckily, I had read about this trend and was able to dispatch with her confusion, if not her incredulity, post haste. Its proponents purport that, by mimicking the running conditions of early humans, we can minimize stress injuries and maxmize performance. Now, I'm no physiologist, so am not really qualified to contemplate the merits of this argument, of which there are many. However, I can also see how wearing shoes (something that humans have done for quite a long time) might have advantages as well, especially given the hyper-ergonomically engineered footware available to the modern runner. Sure, we may have spent a good deal of our early evolution running around barefoot, but it's not impossible that shoe wearing has not subtly influenced our ped-evolution in the meanwhile. Peruse the "paleao diet" for another example of the "if the cavemen did it, it must be good for us, because that's how we evolved" thinking. The cavemen also endured brutish existences and often fell victim to toothaches. I think you see where I'm going with this.
This, to me, represents simply one more manifestation of our society's pre-occupation with trying to discover, and then embrace, all that is 'natural' and (implicitly) better for us. The proponents of organic food, despite considerable evidence to the contrary, insist that organic veg is more healthful. I'll grant it is less environmentally destructive, but de facto more healthy? Probably not. Anyone who has been to a Whole Foods Market can see this trend in all its consumerist glory. Whole aisles devoted to homoeopathic 'remedies', with absolutely zero basis in reality. Hyper-diluted (sometimes tens of thousands of times!) rose-hip water, while perhaps more natural than human engineered chemical compounds, will do nothing for your health beyond the placebo effect. It may be more natural than aspirin, but I'm still going with aspirin for my headache, thanks very much! Chemotherapy might be horrendous to endure, but it saves lives. The bottom line: natural does not necessarily equal better.
Which all makes the obsession with doing, eating, drinking, and being "natural" kind of funny. If you shop at Whole Foods, live in Brooklyn, and run through the completely human created landscape of Central Park.. well, all the homoeopathic remedies and foot-condom running in the world isn't going to give you some mythic natural existence. Appreciation of nature and respect for the natural world is crucial to our survival as a species, but consumerist attempts to live some faddishy faux-naturelle lifestyle do not necessarily represent any step in that direction.
Also, it just makes you seem weird to Canadians, which is quite the feat.
Monday, March 8, 2010
Everyone Counts
This year brings a new decade (sort of) and with it a brand new census! Yes, the great counting of America means short questionnaires will soon be arriving in people's mailboxes and on their doorsteps. The necessity of the census, and all the positive consequences of it being conducted accurately, are well known and unnecessary to explicate. Equally well known and unnecessary to examine is the insanity that bubbles in the bosoms of your more conspiratorially minded, far-right, anti-government town idiot in reaction to this simple, non-invasive exercise that actually makes government MORE representative of all, even idiots like him. (And its always a him.)
The census reminds us of our common membership in a political community, and as such can bring up many questions about how we choose to identify ourselves within that community.
For example, LGBT issues and the census have been intertwined, and have hit facebook (or my facebook, at least) with a vengeance. I've been repeatedly invited to the group/page/event/whatever that beckons me to support some sort of petition on Change.org (a website that seems to mimic the Obama campaign's fonts and such..) and to check out "Queer the Census", a project of the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, to get a question about sexual orientation added to the NEXT census, in 2020. So many of my facebook friends like this, that facebook has even taken it upon itself to "suggest" these things to me.
No, thank you.
For one, this is an intrusive and unnecessary question. The census doesn't ask about my religion (nor should it), so don't ask me about my sexuality. I suppose knowing how many LGB people there are would make it more obvious why marriage inequality and other discriminatory legal regimes are unfair. Other than that, I don't see any pressing need or reason to include a question of sexual orientation on a census form. It really is none of the state's business who I, or anyone else, loves or what we do in our bedrooms or elsewhere. Not to get all Glenn Beck on you, but the Nazis were also overly interested in finding out the sexuality of the citizenry. It just isn't information the state must, or even should, have. I for one would decline to answer.
Which brings me to another point: asking this question on the census would provide data that no statistician of repute would consider representative of the full array of sexuality present within such a large and complex society. Not everyone will answer the question, others will lie, others (such as minors) will go uncounted. You're not going to get really great data this way, so it seems more like you'd be including the question on principle, rather than on pragmatism. I'm all for principles, but when there are other compelling reasons NOT to include this, the principles don't seem all that compelling.
Finally, while I don't believe anyone can, via strength of will or effort, "change" their sexuality, sexuality is not like one's biological sex. [Which can, through strength of hormone injections and a skilled surgeon, be changed, sort of.] To troupe out the well-worn "Sex and Gender 101" clichés, sexuality is: fluid, evolving, exists along a spectrum, and is ascribed meaning and identity implications by a given society. Before the late 1800s, homosexuality as we know it was unthinkable. This is not to say that same-sex physical and/or romantic relationships didn't exist before this time, but simply that there was no conception of a stable identity category based around who one chooses to sleep with and/or fall in love with. Even up through the mid-20th Century, in Western societies at least, sexuality was something you did, not something you were. So, it seems to me, to ask questions about your "sexual orientation" on a census form would be to ignore both contemporary sexuality/gender theory, and also the bulk of historical and sociological evidence which shows us that sexuality is not so neat as "Check Box A for Straight, Box B for Gay..." and so on. How to account for the self-identified lesbian who is currently dating a man, or the asexual, or the bisexual who by the time the next census comes around will call themself gay, or the man-who-has-sex-with-men who is married and thinks of himself as straight? The variation even across one individual's lifetime is so great, that it seems to me that a decennial census would not really provide a meaningful representation of a whole society's sexuality.
So, I understand, my liberal minded people, I really do. Everyone wants to say "We're here, we're queer, get used to it." This just isn't a very good way of doing it. Rather than "queering" the census, providing three sexual categories in which one must shove oneself seems to me rather un-queer and regressive. Sexuality is simply too complex, and intensely personal, a phenomenon to be captured accurately or appropriately by a one page census form.
The census reminds us of our common membership in a political community, and as such can bring up many questions about how we choose to identify ourselves within that community.
For example, LGBT issues and the census have been intertwined, and have hit facebook (or my facebook, at least) with a vengeance. I've been repeatedly invited to the group/page/event/whatever that beckons me to support some sort of petition on Change.org (a website that seems to mimic the Obama campaign's fonts and such..) and to check out "Queer the Census", a project of the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, to get a question about sexual orientation added to the NEXT census, in 2020. So many of my facebook friends like this, that facebook has even taken it upon itself to "suggest" these things to me.
No, thank you.
For one, this is an intrusive and unnecessary question. The census doesn't ask about my religion (nor should it), so don't ask me about my sexuality. I suppose knowing how many LGB people there are would make it more obvious why marriage inequality and other discriminatory legal regimes are unfair. Other than that, I don't see any pressing need or reason to include a question of sexual orientation on a census form. It really is none of the state's business who I, or anyone else, loves or what we do in our bedrooms or elsewhere. Not to get all Glenn Beck on you, but the Nazis were also overly interested in finding out the sexuality of the citizenry. It just isn't information the state must, or even should, have. I for one would decline to answer.
Which brings me to another point: asking this question on the census would provide data that no statistician of repute would consider representative of the full array of sexuality present within such a large and complex society. Not everyone will answer the question, others will lie, others (such as minors) will go uncounted. You're not going to get really great data this way, so it seems more like you'd be including the question on principle, rather than on pragmatism. I'm all for principles, but when there are other compelling reasons NOT to include this, the principles don't seem all that compelling.
Finally, while I don't believe anyone can, via strength of will or effort, "change" their sexuality, sexuality is not like one's biological sex. [Which can, through strength of hormone injections and a skilled surgeon, be changed, sort of.] To troupe out the well-worn "Sex and Gender 101" clichés, sexuality is: fluid, evolving, exists along a spectrum, and is ascribed meaning and identity implications by a given society. Before the late 1800s, homosexuality as we know it was unthinkable. This is not to say that same-sex physical and/or romantic relationships didn't exist before this time, but simply that there was no conception of a stable identity category based around who one chooses to sleep with and/or fall in love with. Even up through the mid-20th Century, in Western societies at least, sexuality was something you did, not something you were. So, it seems to me, to ask questions about your "sexual orientation" on a census form would be to ignore both contemporary sexuality/gender theory, and also the bulk of historical and sociological evidence which shows us that sexuality is not so neat as "Check Box A for Straight, Box B for Gay..." and so on. How to account for the self-identified lesbian who is currently dating a man, or the asexual, or the bisexual who by the time the next census comes around will call themself gay, or the man-who-has-sex-with-men who is married and thinks of himself as straight? The variation even across one individual's lifetime is so great, that it seems to me that a decennial census would not really provide a meaningful representation of a whole society's sexuality.
So, I understand, my liberal minded people, I really do. Everyone wants to say "We're here, we're queer, get used to it." This just isn't a very good way of doing it. Rather than "queering" the census, providing three sexual categories in which one must shove oneself seems to me rather un-queer and regressive. Sexuality is simply too complex, and intensely personal, a phenomenon to be captured accurately or appropriately by a one page census form.
Friday, February 26, 2010
Blizzicane 2010: The Stupid Post I wrote while as delirious as the newscasters.
As I write this, the New York City metro area is digging out from yet another massive snowstorm. Central Park recorded over twenty inches of snow in the last day and a half. That is a lot of snow! Overall, the city and region have done fairly well, with public transportation getting back to normal service levels and most major roads plowed down to the blacktop within six hours of the end of the snowfall. Well done, states of New York and New Jersey. That's what happens when adequate levels of taxation and public spending are maintained. (Not that I mean to disrespect other metropolitan areas, such as our nation's capital city and surrounding states..)
That, however, is not the point of this post. My main amusement is the well-known hysterics into which the local TV newspeople throw themselves during every winter storm, this one being no exception. The local NBC affiliate has put aside their normal daytime programming for hour after hour of non-stop snowstorm coverage. The anchors and roving reporters are giddy with snow-induced fatigue; all normal restraints on their playful banter have been tossed into the snow pile. They swing schizophrenically between outrage at bureaucratic muck-ups (such as the current "truck-stucking", their words not mine, on a highway upstate covered with flair by Tim Minton, who has just on live TV described one inept driver as a "knucklehead"), to profound sadness at the man killed by a falling branch, to sympathy for business owners whose roofs have collapsed, to jubilation for the NYC school children enjoying their unexpected day off.
Adding to the whimsy, the white-girl news anchor literally "oh-no-he-didnt'ed", in a spirit of chummy urban camaraderie no doubt, at Janice Huff after fellow meteorologist John Marshall dared mention the possibility of more snow next week. (He and Janice will be fleeing to Bermuda to escape the wrath of the villagers, because as we know the weather is controlled by the TV meteorologists.) And, in another inspiring story, a reporter has just told us of his siting of a convoy of Orthodox Jews passing his perch near the highway. Apparently, Purim begins tomorrow, and those intrepid Jews just aren't going to let the snow stop their fun. So brave! Thank you for inspiring us all with that story, Mr. Reporter-man!
They've also wheeled out the cutesy names - Snow-cane, Hurrizard, Blizzicane - all owing to this storm's unusually hurricane-like spiral structure. It is all fair enough: they are being forced to fill 8 hours of news coverage with about 20 minutes worth of news story. I'd crack up, too. It is certainly amusing to watch, and I think sort of interesting to see how behavior norms change, for news people and everyone else, due to what is in this area a fairly common weather event. You don't see this sort of change in response to severe thunderstorms, not in the New York area, at least. I'd be interested to know if, in the Midwest and Great Plains, tornado season brings such sweeping changes to the local news landscape. There is something not quite right about coming up with cutesy names for a destructive tornado (Whirly-Wind? Tornadothon? Cyclonageddon?), so I'm guessing any change is not in the direction of levity and laughter.
Nevermind, back to the Blizzicane for me. And, oh-no-he-didn't, the news anchor just called NY Governor David Paterson's current predicament a "storm, a political storm of sorts". Oh yes, he did.
That, however, is not the point of this post. My main amusement is the well-known hysterics into which the local TV newspeople throw themselves during every winter storm, this one being no exception. The local NBC affiliate has put aside their normal daytime programming for hour after hour of non-stop snowstorm coverage. The anchors and roving reporters are giddy with snow-induced fatigue; all normal restraints on their playful banter have been tossed into the snow pile. They swing schizophrenically between outrage at bureaucratic muck-ups (such as the current "truck-stucking", their words not mine, on a highway upstate covered with flair by Tim Minton, who has just on live TV described one inept driver as a "knucklehead"), to profound sadness at the man killed by a falling branch, to sympathy for business owners whose roofs have collapsed, to jubilation for the NYC school children enjoying their unexpected day off.
Adding to the whimsy, the white-girl news anchor literally "oh-no-he-didnt'ed", in a spirit of chummy urban camaraderie no doubt, at Janice Huff after fellow meteorologist John Marshall dared mention the possibility of more snow next week. (He and Janice will be fleeing to Bermuda to escape the wrath of the villagers, because as we know the weather is controlled by the TV meteorologists.) And, in another inspiring story, a reporter has just told us of his siting of a convoy of Orthodox Jews passing his perch near the highway. Apparently, Purim begins tomorrow, and those intrepid Jews just aren't going to let the snow stop their fun. So brave! Thank you for inspiring us all with that story, Mr. Reporter-man!
They've also wheeled out the cutesy names - Snow-cane, Hurrizard, Blizzicane - all owing to this storm's unusually hurricane-like spiral structure. It is all fair enough: they are being forced to fill 8 hours of news coverage with about 20 minutes worth of news story. I'd crack up, too. It is certainly amusing to watch, and I think sort of interesting to see how behavior norms change, for news people and everyone else, due to what is in this area a fairly common weather event. You don't see this sort of change in response to severe thunderstorms, not in the New York area, at least. I'd be interested to know if, in the Midwest and Great Plains, tornado season brings such sweeping changes to the local news landscape. There is something not quite right about coming up with cutesy names for a destructive tornado (Whirly-Wind? Tornadothon? Cyclonageddon?), so I'm guessing any change is not in the direction of levity and laughter.
Nevermind, back to the Blizzicane for me. And, oh-no-he-didn't, the news anchor just called NY Governor David Paterson's current predicament a "storm, a political storm of sorts". Oh yes, he did.
Monday, February 22, 2010
The Big O
No, not that O, nor Oprah. My mind is more on the Olympics, and O Canada!
Canada: the Great White North. Or, as it might just as easily be called in the USA: the Great Unknown! Ah, Canada. Americans know a few things about you:
1. Hockey.
2. That your people say "Eh". Whether or not this is really all that common, I have no idea. I think it might be the Canadian equivalent to England's "Cheerio", ie: something many Americans imagine people to say all the time, but is heard rarely, if ever. I might be wrong, but my gut tells me I might be right.
3. Universal healthcare. Many Americans are wary of the Canadian model, Medicaid. Probably because it is named the same as our own fledgling indigent care program, and federally structured in a vaguely similar way. It is also frequently compared to HMOs, which are not that popular. People south of the border generally imagine this is a nightmare, or a dream come true, depending.
4. Molson beer.
5. There is no five, most Americans know exactly four things about Canada.
Luckily, Tom Brokaw and the good people at NBC conjured a little montage (visible here!) to explain Canada and its relationship to the US, shown during their coverage immediately preceding the opening ceremony. There are many things annoying about this. For one, it was just the beginning of the non-stop montages and human interest sob stories that clutter NBC's coverage of the games. I don't know if thats how they are covered on TV in other countries, but it gets annoying. Just show me the sports, when they happen, and tell me a little about the athletes. I don't need to know about their aunt's struggle with constipation. That, and all the commercial breaks.
I digress. That little piece of reportage, while highly celebratory of Canada and her special relationship with the US, struck me as a little... patronizing. Both of Canada, and of the American TV viewership. It was definitely US-centric, but that isn't really unexpected. I was bothered that it portrayed Canada's worth as a country mostly as a function of its utilitarian value to the United States, as in, "Canada is great, look at all we get from it!" It kind of reminds me of the scene from Love, Actually in which UK Prime Minister Hugh Grant tells off the US president, saying he just takes takes takes and never gives in that other "special relationship". Perhaps that is how the US comes across in its relations with a lot of other countries, through foreign eyes. The NBC piece, in my view, reinforces the notion that countries only matter inasmuch as they contribute to the United States' dominance and strength, and only insofar as they have similar qualities to the US.
Of course, it was nice of NBC to try and educate Americans on Canada, because people are definitely under-informed. However, it could have done so in a way that was a bit more about Canada itself, rather than about Canada: A Subsidiary of America, Inc.
Canada: the Great White North. Or, as it might just as easily be called in the USA: the Great Unknown! Ah, Canada. Americans know a few things about you:
1. Hockey.
2. That your people say "Eh". Whether or not this is really all that common, I have no idea. I think it might be the Canadian equivalent to England's "Cheerio", ie: something many Americans imagine people to say all the time, but is heard rarely, if ever. I might be wrong, but my gut tells me I might be right.
3. Universal healthcare. Many Americans are wary of the Canadian model, Medicaid. Probably because it is named the same as our own fledgling indigent care program, and federally structured in a vaguely similar way. It is also frequently compared to HMOs, which are not that popular. People south of the border generally imagine this is a nightmare, or a dream come true, depending.
4. Molson beer.
5. There is no five, most Americans know exactly four things about Canada.
Luckily, Tom Brokaw and the good people at NBC conjured a little montage (visible here!) to explain Canada and its relationship to the US, shown during their coverage immediately preceding the opening ceremony. There are many things annoying about this. For one, it was just the beginning of the non-stop montages and human interest sob stories that clutter NBC's coverage of the games. I don't know if thats how they are covered on TV in other countries, but it gets annoying. Just show me the sports, when they happen, and tell me a little about the athletes. I don't need to know about their aunt's struggle with constipation. That, and all the commercial breaks.
I digress. That little piece of reportage, while highly celebratory of Canada and her special relationship with the US, struck me as a little... patronizing. Both of Canada, and of the American TV viewership. It was definitely US-centric, but that isn't really unexpected. I was bothered that it portrayed Canada's worth as a country mostly as a function of its utilitarian value to the United States, as in, "Canada is great, look at all we get from it!" It kind of reminds me of the scene from Love, Actually in which UK Prime Minister Hugh Grant tells off the US president, saying he just takes takes takes and never gives in that other "special relationship". Perhaps that is how the US comes across in its relations with a lot of other countries, through foreign eyes. The NBC piece, in my view, reinforces the notion that countries only matter inasmuch as they contribute to the United States' dominance and strength, and only insofar as they have similar qualities to the US.
Of course, it was nice of NBC to try and educate Americans on Canada, because people are definitely under-informed. However, it could have done so in a way that was a bit more about Canada itself, rather than about Canada: A Subsidiary of America, Inc.
Friday, February 19, 2010
Oxymorons and Ideology
While I wanted to start this blog off with a post examining Americans' weird obsession with the "Founding Fathers", I was sidetracked today by a confluence of news and opinion pieces that got the gears in my head turning. The issue in question: gay Republicans. I know, I know: it's easy to get a good laugh out of that phrase, as is. However, I think the existence of gay Republican organizations highlights some big issues in our contemporary politics .
As you might know, the Conservative Political Action Conference is taking place in Washington this week. Check out their website to find out more, but basically it is a yearly get-together thrown by the American Conservative Union to discuss all the exciting regressive developments in and future direction for American conservatism. Note, this is not a Republican organization per se, but definitely is partly composed of and seeks to influence the GOP.
Anyway, I stumbled across this blog post linked to a CNN report about GOProud, a gay Republican pressure group that wants to promote gay rights via some strategy of dis-empowering the Federal government in favor of each state making decisions on gay marriage and other issues. Because, as everyone knows, the states tend tonot make very gay friendly laws when left to their own devices.
Now, if you're gay and a Republican, fine. I accept that there are greedy irrational gay people just as there are greedy irrational straight people. (I'm simplifying GOP ideals, here.) However, specifically mobilizing on the basis of your sexuality signals a concern for LGBT specific issues and interests. If the GOP were true to its more classical liberal, small government roots, I could almost understand mobilizing as "gay Republicans". It is not. At best, the GOP is indifferent to the specific concerns and interests of LGBT people and, at worst, is openly hostile to them. The party is for small government in welfare and public service provision, but for large intrusive government in almost every other respect, including butting in (no pun!) to the sexual and family lives of the citizenry. By going along with the GOP, even as it fights against the interests of LGBT people, you simply consent to and aid their narrative.
Earlier today I read a piece (on an unrelated issue) appearing in the Guardian by Jessica Asato, a British Labour party activist and think-tank director. This line struck me:
The parties clearly have ideological differences, but with Blue Dog Democrats and GOProud Republicans running around clucking about their pet peeves, the lines are definitely blurred. Instead, politicians and parties vacillate, responding to each "issue" as though it were a stand-alone phenomenon. Without a clear set of political and social beliefs and values to appeal to, the interests of narrow pressure groups and constituencies, rather than the good of all, tends to win out. Politicians and other organizations claim to "want what is best for America", without defining a vision of how we would get there, or what it would look like when we did.
As you might know, the Conservative Political Action Conference is taking place in Washington this week. Check out their website to find out more, but basically it is a yearly get-together thrown by the American Conservative Union to discuss all the exciting regressive developments in and future direction for American conservatism. Note, this is not a Republican organization per se, but definitely is partly composed of and seeks to influence the GOP.
Anyway, I stumbled across this blog post linked to a CNN report about GOProud, a gay Republican pressure group that wants to promote gay rights via some strategy of dis-empowering the Federal government in favor of each state making decisions on gay marriage and other issues. Because, as everyone knows, the states tend to
Now, if you're gay and a Republican, fine. I accept that there are greedy irrational gay people just as there are greedy irrational straight people. (I'm simplifying GOP ideals, here.) However, specifically mobilizing on the basis of your sexuality signals a concern for LGBT specific issues and interests. If the GOP were true to its more classical liberal, small government roots, I could almost understand mobilizing as "gay Republicans". It is not. At best, the GOP is indifferent to the specific concerns and interests of LGBT people and, at worst, is openly hostile to them. The party is for small government in welfare and public service provision, but for large intrusive government in almost every other respect, including butting in (no pun!) to the sexual and family lives of the citizenry. By going along with the GOP, even as it fights against the interests of LGBT people, you simply consent to and aid their narrative.
Earlier today I read a piece (on an unrelated issue) appearing in the Guardian by Jessica Asato, a British Labour party activist and think-tank director. This line struck me:
We join single issue groups because it's easier than having to think about the complexities of modern life and the politics that should result.Organizing as "gay Republicans" signals a refusal to recognize that the overall 'politics' of the GOP is inherently hostile to historically disempowered groups. This sort of narrow single-issue thinking isn't just a gay republican problem, but is rife in our politics today. It is easier to think only about the issues that affect us, or that we care about specifically, than to formulate a framework of values and beliefs that guides our response to the demands of democratic social and political life. The name for this framework is ideology, a dirty word in today's discourse. However, without some form of ideology to structure our politics, all we are left with is a vague "America-first centrism" (itself an ideology).
The parties clearly have ideological differences, but with Blue Dog Democrats and GOProud Republicans running around clucking about their pet peeves, the lines are definitely blurred. Instead, politicians and parties vacillate, responding to each "issue" as though it were a stand-alone phenomenon. Without a clear set of political and social beliefs and values to appeal to, the interests of narrow pressure groups and constituencies, rather than the good of all, tends to win out. Politicians and other organizations claim to "want what is best for America", without defining a vision of how we would get there, or what it would look like when we did.
Tuesday, February 16, 2010
Hello
This is where my obnoxious analysis will go. You will read it and it will be good.
Following on the success of "Tea and Apathy", which was your standard "I'm living in a foreign country! Lets analyse the locals like animals in a zoo!" type blog, I've decided to do a similar one for the United States now that I am stuck there for the foreseeable future. Hence, "Coffee and Excessive Hugging", certainly the loud American answer to British tea and apathy.
Expect a mix of social analysis, politics, and historical discussion in an appropriately sardonic style. I have felt my brain whithering from disuse over the last few months, so hopefully this will be just the pseudo-intellectual boost I need. And hopefully you'll be entertained, as well.
Following on the success of "Tea and Apathy", which was your standard "I'm living in a foreign country! Lets analyse the locals like animals in a zoo!" type blog, I've decided to do a similar one for the United States now that I am stuck there for the foreseeable future. Hence, "Coffee and Excessive Hugging", certainly the loud American answer to British tea and apathy.
Expect a mix of social analysis, politics, and historical discussion in an appropriately sardonic style. I have felt my brain whithering from disuse over the last few months, so hopefully this will be just the pseudo-intellectual boost I need. And hopefully you'll be entertained, as well.
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